recoil is a result of velocity and bullet weight. You can download a 300 win to lower than 30 06 velocitys and recoil. You can load a 308 lower than this so on and so on etc. Stock design and muzzle brakes also tend to reduce recoil and how the rifle handles respectively. Out of the rifles that I have built for smaller framed females I have learned that recoil is only half of the issue to flinching or worse, not enjoying the sport of shooting or hunting. ADVISE Build a 7mm08 and load it with some Barnes 100 gr bullets.22 to 24 in barrel to keep the blast further away, shorter barrels especially with brakes pressure the senses and induce flinch. MAG NA PORT the barrel, have the 6 port done. Use cfe223 powder with good brass. Go have fun More killing power than any other mentioned cartridges and easy expandable for larger game once she gets into the sport. You can download but you always reach a point that you can not upload any more.gun)