Below is a brand new RCBS expander, and if you do not polish the expander and lube the inside of the case neck the expander drag will make the case necks longer.
Remove the expander from the die and size a case, how long is this case.
Now reinstall the expander and size the case again, did the case length increase?
Now polish the expander and lube the inside of the case neck and size a case. Did the case grow in length as much as it did before.
I wet tumble my cases with stainless steel media, and then lube and size them. I then trim and debur the cases to cleanup the case mouth after wet tumbling.
Below are some of my .223 dies, I'm loading for two AR15 rifles and a bolt action Savage .223.
Each of the full length dies will reduce the case diameter different amounts. And the RCBS small base die will make the case grow more than any of the other dies.
You could buy another die and have the same case growth problem, or it might get better or it might get worse. You could buy a different brand of brass and see what happens. But you are the one pulling the press handle and you have to troubleshoot the issue.
I prefer Forster full length benchrest dies with the high mounted floating expander. Because they produce the least neck runout after sizing.