I am married and did grow up in a blue state. I moved because my, and my direct families, personal freedoms were more important to me than being close to where my parents and siblings are, same for my wife. Was she happy about it? No. Did she understand? Yes. Is she happier now? Absolutely.
I can travel back to see them when I want. They can travel to visit me. Good enough for me.
I get that it is hard, but you have to be honest with yourself. If you are prioritizing being around family more than your 2A rights, then you can't get all victim-y when discussions like this come up.