86Alaskan, you are 100% correct, getting almost any well known brand of match grade upper from Rock River, DPMS,CMMG, and other high quality but lower end manufacturers (meaning not mil spec, not 100% Magnetic particle tested) will get you a very accurate very reliable upper or complete gun that will last a lifetime.
Alot of people are so dead set on getting MIL-Spec everything because the military uses it so it has to be better I just take one look at the MIL-Spec plastic crap handguards and the horrible MIL-Spec triggers and know thats not true, yes, In an ideal world you would get a MP tested barrel and a shot peened bolt, that way you know that the barrel and bolt carrier is structurally sound.
Also the MIL-Spec bolts use Grade 8 bolts for the gas key and are staked properly. To me this isnt something to worry about unless you are shooting full auto and are trying to get 20,000 rounds out of a barrel/bolt combination and 60,000 rounds out of a gun. A properly staked key is important, a grade 8 one, meh
Ive got a Bushmaster Patrolmans Carbine (MIL-Spec'ed XME2S) and its got a chrome lined gas key and bolt, a chrome lined barrel and a parkerized finish under the F marked front sight block. Its chambered in 5.56 and has the MP testing marks and certificates stating that the barrel and bolt are both tested and the metal they used is true to spec. It doesnt give me any more performance percieved or not, i get no better accuracy, no better reliability and I alwasys have people come up and drool over how its 100% mil spec.
For the Average Joe who shoots his AR-15 even at high volumes and very fast, or even a soldier that in on the front lines would be served well with Either a 100% true to mil Spec gun or a Mostly MIL-Spec gun from alot of quality manufacturers. The biggest thing you are getting with MIL Spec is the MP testing to prove your barrel is stress crack free . and the chrome lining but if you use stainless steel barrels and bolts you dont need the chrome lining.
there are plenty of videos on youtube showing torture tests of AR's some mil spec some not, the one that comes to mind is a non mil Spec AR that is shot until the magpul furniture catches on fire, then thrown into a muddy creek, and thats repeated 3 times and the gun is fine after a non stop string of 750rds and two trips to a nasty muddy puddle. and according to the owner a respected writer for LuckyGunnerLabs that gun now has 15,000+ rounds on it and is just fine, he says it doesnt quite group like it did but its very much a 3 moa gun at 100yds. instead of the 2-2.5 moa gun it was out of box with mil surp ball ammo, shooting 30 magazines in a row out of any gun will not do its accuracy any favors
with material like steel especially high performance steel every time they make them they assign a number to the Ingot the #HEAT and then they will break it up in to #LOT and then do individual testing on those sections for alloy content and structural integrity. While working at an Aerospace company I never saw a part fail the MP testing or the other dye tests i cant remember the name of for non magnetic parts, I have seen 8 million parts rejected due to some dimensional spec being just too thick or too thin. or a heat treated part fail to become a certain rockwell, and since its a work hardened part it has to be at XX rockewell hardness at this step because blah blah.
My point is, if it were free Id take the MP testing and all of the other mil spec stuff, its not so I dont worry about it. Especially if you are going for a precision AR. 20,000 rounds is a pretty expensive target to hit even with handloads when talking about match grade projectiles.
It Seems like people are really happy with White Oak Armory Uppers, I looked at them and the only thing I dont like is the 18" heavy match uppers with Free float HG's dont have threaded muzzles, other than that another fine example of a good quality low cost match upper that should get you Sub MOA