Bart, your #24 post has the most lucid - and correct - explaination of how a case fits in any chamber during firing I've ever seen on the web, including a couple of my own efforts. I tend to neck size my target/varmint ammo but, strong ndividual opinions aside, most of us who have honestly tried both neck sizing and FL sizing know that it rarely matters if each is correctly done.
I disagree with your accessment of the effect on OAL of an O ring under a die vs. simply screwed down tho. Once the slack in the mating threads is taken out, the ram/seating force is taken directly by steel to steel contact. It doesn't matter how that gets accomplished, an O ring/springly washer under the lock nut pushes the die treads up as surely as the lock nut can by itself.