If you have clearance between shoulder of the brass and shoulder of the sizing die you aren't bumping your shoulders back. The shoulder will continue to move forward, get longer as it's squeezed, until you have the die adjusted down enough for it to start pushing the shoulder back.
Case walls thin with use. You see this via case length growing. It's not necessarily over sizing the brass. Yes, if you oversized the brass, by pushing the shoulder back too much it will lengthen too. This is why you check your shoulder bump length. If you trim the brass length to length on brass with the shoulder pushed too far back it's going to end up on the short size when sized properly. The brass is trapped/contained on all sides except the neck end. It has to flow somewhere, and that's the only place it can go as the die is squeezing it into the shape of the die.
Let me ask you a question. What are the steps of your brass preparation?