Tell that to the Little Guy. He's making the decisions for most young guys around that time. Some women, as well as men, are just controlling in nature, ala Libturds in particular. Most young people are making all the big life decisions......education and associated debt (first big life business decision), career, mate, kids, housing, et el......when they don't know enough about life to be making those decisions, which largely determines their life trajectory. Men enter marriage expecting the little lady to never change....slim/young looks, starry-eyed dating disposition. Women are sure they can change the guy into all that she wants him to be. Once those initial decisions are made life is typically locked in. Few alter that resulting trajectory once the responsibilities of those decisions set in....school loans, house and car payments, kids costs,. contact circle... Commonly choosing a mate ends up nothing more than a situation of "a pig in a poke" luck. Congrats, your poke had a goodern' in there. Just a whole lotta decades of observation. YMMV, but doubt it.