Rusty, I used to think like you are regarding what happens to primers and cases when they're fired. Then someone suggested I make some primed cases, some with and some without bullets, but all without powder, use a case headspace gauge to make before and after head to shoulder measurements on those .308 Win. cases. I did that.
Then I loaded 10 rounds of .308 Win. ammo using new cases starting with 44 grains of IMR4064 and some 165-gr. bullets. Each subsequent load's charge weight was 1 grain less. Case headspace on those new cases ranged from 1.627" to 1.629" and each was marked with its dimension for comparison after firing. Chamber headspace in the test rifle was 1.631". Loads with 44 down through 41 grains all had primers flush with the case head. Case headspace had increased to 1.630 for those loads. The 40 grain load had its primer sticking out about .002" and its headspace was 1.629" Each successive lesser charge down to 38 grains ended up with the primer sticking out a bit more as well as case headspace getting shorter. I stopped shooting after that; it's primer stuck out about .007" and case headspace was 1.625"; back .003" from its original 1.628" measurement. I didn't think it was necessary to shoot loads more reduced, but later shot the 37 grain load and it was the same as the 38 grain one.
My deductions from this test are as follows.
Firing pin drives case hard enough into the chamber shoulder to set the shoulder back a few thousandths. As the round fires, the front part of the case body holds the case against the chamber wall at that point as the back end of the case gets pushed back against the bolt face. Meanwhile, the primer gets pushed out of its pocket until pressure is high enough to have it pushed back in as the case head gets pushed back against the bolt face.
If there's not enough peak pressure in the case, the primer will be sticking out of the case head and it's headspace will be shorter than before it was fired.
Firing several primed .308 cases without powder or bullet had each one's headspace 2 to 3 thousandths shorter. All primers were still at their same depth in their pockets; about .003" below flush.
Fired 20 rounds of ammo without powder, but primed and with bullets seated. All had their shoulders set back a couple thousandths, primers and bullets still in place.
Readers can form their own reasons for the results of such stuff.