@Trappernewt,
"…just the idea that home doesn't seem like home anymore…" is the very reason why I left Alaska when I retired from the Anchorage Police Dept and moved Outside.
My family moved to Alaska when I was 2 years old, before Statehood, and I lived in SE, the Interior, and South Central.
With the influx of people during the Pipeline era came a lot of problems that we didn't have before and it started changing the dynamics of life there.
Anchorage has been known as the most dangerous/violent city per capita in the US for years. Of course the local media and the politicians don't want to advertise that, but it's a fact.
Now that the APD is guided by "Progressive" politics it's not become any safer.
Alaska is still the most beautiful state in the country and there are many wonderful people there, but it's not Utopia.
Your family needs to be fully involved in the decision and you need to understand the issues of reduced daylight for months, the distance from family, and political realities of living in a state that is run remotely and out of sight from the public.
Know that by living in Fairbanks or Anchorage you will be competing with a lot of other people for hunting and, particularly, fishing opportunities.
I can remember when there were less than 150 people fishing the Russian River during the peak of the Red Salmon run. Those days are gone.
I hunted snowshoe hares, Spruce hens, and ptarmigan along the Knik River Road when there were no homes in the area.
When I was 12, my Dad killed his moose outside of the Anchorage city limits in Spenard where a hotel now sits.
Don't expect things to stay the same as when you arrive, and be realistic about your expectations.
Ed