The key to this whole thing is doing load development from start to finish with the bullet where you or the rifle wants it to be.
By that I mean, if you need to use your magazine, then seat the bullets so they just fit and start working up with the powder charges.
If you are shooting Berger vld's, you will most likely HAVE to shoot them into the lands because that is where they <font color="blue"> usually </font> shoot the best. Load them into the jam, and then start fresh with a starting load and work up from there like you never tried any off the lands prior.
If there is one thing that I have learned over the years that will help people with this question, it is this:
<font color="red"> EVERY </font> cartridge has <font color="red"> TWO </font> so called "sweet spots" with bullet seating. One far from the lands and one closer to it. The key is to seat the bullet at different depths around your needs (mag fed or single shot) and find the spot. My 300 win mag for example is on a Browning action and has the shortest box magazine known to man. I have no choice but to seat the bullets in a manner that will fit the mag for hunting. This leaves me about .130" jump to the rather long throated lands. Does this mean I'm skrewed? Of course not. I just have to find the "short" lenght sweet spot instead of the long length one.
I started doing load development with the short length depth and found the right bullet, powder, powder charge, primer, and case and BINGO, this gun shoots 1/4"-3/8" every time I take her out.
Out of curiosity, last summer I decided to see if I could find the "long" depth sweet spot. I loaded them single shot long and started from scratch with my load development. At .005" off the lands, I got the same sized groups but it was with 1.5 grains less powder and the velo was almost 125 fps faster. THis happened because pressures rise as the bullet nears the lands. THis is why you must redo the powder charge from start to max like you have never shot the gun before.
So, you can see I found both sweet spots and both shot equally well.
Don't be afraid to seat them deeper if you aren't getting the performance you hoped for. I would have kept going deeper on my 300 until the ogive was barely hanging out of the case if I had to. And if you are shooting VLD's, don't be afraid to keep ramming them into the jam until they shoot. I have one gun that is seated so far into the lands that if I load a cartridge into the chamber, I must shoot it because it will not come back out in one piece. It dumps powder all over the place and leaves the bullet in the throat but that is the way the gun likes it!
Hope this helps.