I usually mount scope rings and mounts hand tight . Haven't had any problems. Just bought some new ring mounts, directions say mounting to the picatinny rail 65lbs of Torque and the rings 25lbs . What's wrong with hand tight ?
You could probably go with hand/finger tight on the ring caps and really hand tight on the cross bolt.
......When I got a Wheeler I could hardly believe how much more I had to tighten things to get to their suggested torque levels. Torquing something to 60 in/pounds is the absolute maximum amount of torque I can exert with one hand. Being a small man almost seventy years old might have something to do with that.......