My cousin and I grew up together, brothers really. In the early 80's he had a Rem 700 BDL in 7 RM, which I reloaded for, shot a lot. I had a late 70's 700 BDL in 25-06. Essentially identical guns. One with a magnum bolt face, one not. I shot them both and he did as well. His weighed a smidge more -- heavier but not longer barrel.
That **** 25-06 would do more black and blue on your shoulder than the 7 RM, over say 50 rounds working up a load. Of course, the numbers say otherwise. The stocks look identical. Decent straight walnut. Basic recoil pad on both.
Recoil in my opinion has another component -- rate of rise. Science term. If a big gun bumps you hard, but gives your tissues some time to accept the blow, the damage to your body *might* be less than a light gun that just "pops" your shoulder hard and fast.
Of course there are comb angles and other factors usually that make the water murky. But in this case, I swear, the gun that should have shot lighter, my cousin and I agree, shot with more damage to the shooter.