Constructive criticism ...

[FEENIX]

Apparently, it takes a special trait/attribute (learned/adapted or born with it) to be able to deal with it. How do you handle constructive criticism like a champ? It seems people are easily offended these days. Constructive criticism is often the only way we learn about our weaknesses — without it we can't improve. When we're defensive, instead of accepting and gracious, we run the risk of missing out on this important insight. I have a handful of people here that does this extremely well and one of the reasons I look up to them. Despite their years of real-world knowledge and experience, they are open-minded. As a life-long learner, I do not mind it, just curious how others cope with it.

We "all" know the site rules and the Golden Rule (as well as Dirty Harry's opinion on opinion ), chime away ... TGIF!

Cheers!

Ed

 

[Doublezranch]

 

[just country]

morning, constructive criticism is good with friends.
we learn and laugh from each others mistakes. thats
one trait we learn. my dad who I dearly loved was quiet and a self
learned person. his traits r what I learned from. Fennix
is a learned person to me respected.
justme gbot tum

 

[HARPERC]

Whether I handle it well or not is judgement call best made by the referee.

 

[jpd676]

People that want to learn will accept truth no matter where it comes from. Those that think they are perfect won't accept anything, even if it would save their life.

 

[Doublezranch]

Then other people chime in on the same thing it's like being gang up on so now you feel like you have to defend yourself
See all the time on this forum

You haven't been to sniperhide then. That forum is a lions den.

 

[sturner]

It's almost like they smell blood in the water and have to one up each other
Even when it was from past pages in the post
Dang read the post if someone has said something leave it alone

 

[Deleted member 48126]

Its hard to read context in forum posts. Also one time experiences or people perception of those experiences does not necessarily equate as fact. People need to differentiate between fact, opinion, and coincidence.

 

[BoomFlop]

I think constructive criticism is something that should happen often. I prefer to be told what I'm doing wrong than being allowed to continue to do it incorrectly.

I handle it with a Thank You!

I believe it is a learned trait. I don't believe some people are born with it. I think if your parents raised you to be the best that you can be, they have given you plenty of constructive criticism before you even knew it could be perceived as a bad thing. Don't get me started on parenting. LOL

Steve

 

[dmj]

One problem is that we are reading and typing. For the most part we don't personally know each. We don't see the facial expressions or the tone of voice of the people we are interacting with. So at times we take a comment wrong and it seems to start a let's say an unproductive conversation. Maybe it's because one party had a bad day or maybe they just like to stir the pot. Anyway that's my 2 cents worth. Have a great weekend everyone.

 

[Deleted member 48126]

Well it also helps that I'm dumb and just assume everyone knows more than me. Makes learning and being wrong super easy. Haha

 

[dfanonymous]

You haven't been to sniperhide then. That forum is a lions den.

It needs to be that way to weed the stupid people out. Just because we all are allowed as a basic right to have an opinion doesn't mean that a stupid opinion gets to go unchecked.

It's not so different then the grunt side of the military. You make one little mistake you are hazed and heckled to kingdom come. Not saying that everything should be like that but you join a place called "sniperhide"...... thats the price for entry. If a person doesn't act like a dumb *** and stays in their lane they'll be fine.

 

[FEENIX]

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LOL, the wife brought this home for me to try from the great state of Texas. Cheers from the Big Sky Country.

Not bad at all!

 

[Mach 1]

You haven't been to sniperhide then. That forum is a lions den.

I agree. The hide can be a rough and tumble place, to be kind. However I will say the truth comes out and the bs is targeted and destroyed quickly over there lol.