Brass prep is bane of every reloader. If you run auto loaders it's really not fun. I'll add:
1. More money, will 95% of the time, get you better components and equipment and usually make your life way easier. When it comes to brass prep, the "buy once, cry once" mantra is correct. Getting every case exactly the same is the goal…for precision work anyway. How much time and money you want to spend to try and getting them there is up to you. I don't get that anal on my "spray" guns.
2. Buy a head space tool. You will size your brass correctly every time. I use the Hornady comparator, and it works great. For my auto loaders I also have case gauges.
3. Really a big fan of Dillion case lube. Lasts a long time and I rarely have shoulder dimples and have never stuck a case with it.
4. Some may scoff at this, but I use a lee factory crimp die on all of my bottle neck cartridges. Works for me.
5. I don't neck size. I only full length resize. Down to SAMMI specs on my auto loaders and 0.002" or so shoulder bump on my bolt gun cases. Some may scoff here too, but this works for me.
6. On all new cases I uniform the flash hole and ream the primer pocket. This is on my precision stuff only. These are a couple of the anal steps if you want to go there. These are a one time processes for the life of the case.
7. I have a reloading journal where I record meticulous notes so I don't forget what I've done. It's my most used reference manual.
8. Yes, you can leave brass at any stage and come back to it when you have time. I have buckets of brass all over the place that are labeled and a small note inside that states which stage of prep I left them at.
9. Buy a die set for each rifle, not each caliber you own. They all shoot differently and you need to set the dies custom to that rifle. The exception here for me is my auto loaders as I set them all to SAMMI specs.
10. I anneal every 3 loadings or so, not every time.
Lastly, I like the idea of working with smaller lots. 25 generally works for me to do a ladder test and then seating depth tests. Once my load is set, I'll increase to 50, 100, 1000 rounds depending on what caliber I'm working on.